Porn Again Christian

Written May 31st 2018

I was casually watching an episode of one of my favorite tv shows, “iZombie” on a free platform when an ad popped up on my screen. It was an ad inviting me to watch porn. I often get pop up pages or banner ads like this but on this day I got angry. I don’t know why, maybe because I was enjoying my show when bam! from nowhere, porn! It was rude, it was offensive and I did not ask for it.

Due to technology, access to pornography has become too easy, too easy that according to statistics, by age 11, the average child has already been exposed to pornography! Did you know that porn is the most consumed item on the internet? (Man, I didn’t know and I was shocked. Legit thought it was some tv series or music). Did you also know that 64% of self identified Christian men and 15% of self-identified Christian women view pornography at least once a month and 37% of Christian men and 7% of Christian women view pornography at least several times a week?

Pornography is enticing because there is a biological connection between a man’s eyes and his genitals that causes him/her to be easily stimulated visually. Little wonder how easily people fall prey to this trap, one click and that’s it. You’re hooked.

Unfortunately, Christians are not immune to this. Some of us have fallen for this trap and become enslaved to porn, paralysed with shame, guilt and embarrassment which hinders our spiritual growth. I am not shaming anyone. I know what it’s like struggling to break free fom a habit. I am only here to tell you that you can be free of this addiction. Yes, your desire for pornographic material can stop.

I know someone (a born again Christian) who argues that pornography is okay because the Bible makes no mention of it but the main purpose of pornography is clearly lust and the Bible speaks about lust. People especially men who view pornography tend to view the opposite sex as objects with parts. According to a survey, some of these men are incapable of being friendly and intimate with attractive women because they cannot view such women in a non-sexual manner.

Did you know that porn increased martial infidelity by 300%? (Source www.fightthenewdrug.org) In an informal meeting survey in 2002, the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers questioned 350 divorce attorneys and found that roughly 60 percent reported that internet porn played a significant role in the divorces, with excessive interest in online porn contributing to more than half of such cases.

When God created Adam and Eve, he gave them sex as a gift to be enjoyed in their marriage without shame with the overall purpose of oneness, saying “therefore, a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife and they shall become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed (Genesis 2 v 24 v 25) Later in Genesis, we see how sin entered the world and polluted everything… including sexuality. Since sex was given for the purpose of oneness (Gen 2 v 24), intimate knowledge (Gen 4 v1) and comfort (2 Sam 12 v 24), having “sex with oneself” seem to miss some of the significant biblical reasons for sexual intimacy. Porn is NOT sex. The devil tries to be like God and tries to pervert everything God created including sexuality. God created sex and the devil has perverted it. Porn is perverted sex.

Eve was the first woman Adam saw. Before Eve, all that Adam saw were antelopes, whales and all other animals that would not fit into a wedding gown. So Eve may or may not have been beautiful but to Adam she was glorious because she was all he had ever known. He had no standard of beauty to compare her to, she was his only standard of beauty. A man’s standard of beauty is not be objectified, it should simply be his wife. The book of Proverbs in 5 v 18–19 tells us that your wife should be your standard of beauty. “Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth, a lovely derr, a graceful doe. Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight, be intoxicated always in her love” If a man fills his mind with images of other women’s breasts, how can his wife’s satisfy him?

I could go on and on about how demonic pornography is. You may think it is harmless but this thing is in stages. It is a hunger, an addiction that you must always feed. It starts as “innocent” but it is deceit. That’s what the devil does. Deceive people. Porn is not harmless. Porn is not “innocent”. Did you know that the most common type of pornography consumed is hard-core porn? This includes verbal and physical abuse, choking women during oral sex, slapping, hair pulling, and anal sex! I watched a documentary on the infamous serial killer, Ted Bundy and he explained the role porn played in turning him into what he became. Same for several other serial killers. You can google it.

Staying away from the internet might be a temporary solution for porn addiction but the problem is in our hearts and not in our internet provider. Paul in Colossians 2 v 20–23 says that legalistic man-made rules may sound helpful but in the end are worthless in restraining sin because they only address outward behaviours while neglecting inward causes. The problem is “in you”. It is from the sinfulness of our hearts that lust and sin proceed. You must be honest about the lusts in your heart and reduce those triggers that stimulate you, and because we are humans with internet access, we are exposed to temptation. Whether we are casually scrolling on a page online and a porn ad pops up or our eyes catches an explicit graphic magazine or a sex scene comes up in a movie, we are exposed to this rubbish whether we like it or not. John 3 v 9 teaches that “No one born of God makes a practice of sinning for Gods seed abides in him and he cannot keep on sinning because he has been born of God” Clearly, while no man of God can become perfect in this life (1 John 1 v 8), God does promise that Christian men have the ability to walk away from habitual sins of all kinds, including sexual sins, which are commonly accepted as undefeatable foes. Practically, this means that sexual sins should not be managed, but rather put to death because Jesus died for it. Daily fellowship with the Holy Spirit, praying in tongues and studying the Word renews our minds and strengthens our spirit. According to research, porn addiction is as strong as substance addiction but just keep on studying the Word and praying in the spirit and watch as your mind will be purged and renewed. The power is in the Word!

Also, please get an accountability partner/friend you can trust. Someone who is spiritually stable and does not have the same struggle. Don’t keep the struggle and the sin to yourself. Porn is a secret killer and it delights in staying in the dark. Speak to a friend about it and when you are weak, they can intercede for you in the place of prayer. They can strengthen you when you are about to give up. They can speak wisdom into you when you are slipping back into the habit.Be accountable to God too. Talk to Him about how you feel. Talk to Him when you feel shamed. Talk to Him about everything.

Sexual sin can harden one’s heart towards God so please do not stop going to church. Join a department. Get involved with the business of God and watch Him change your heart.

Titus 2 v 11–12, “For the grace of God has appeared, bringing salvation for all people, training us to renounce ungodliness and worldly passions and to live self-controlled, upright and godly lives in the present age. This grace enables us not merely to hide our sins, diminish our sin, justify our sins or accept it as inevitable. Rather, God’s grace enables us to put to death our sin so that we live dead to sin and alive to Christ where we were previously alive to sin and dead to Christ (Romans 8 v 13–14) Hold on to the Word! Confess your new identity often until you believe it and you are able to confront your addiction

You are not a porn addict. You are the glory of God.
You are not a porn addict. You are the righteousness of God.
You are not a porn addict. You have God in you.
You can overcome this!

Recommended read — The Bondage Breaker by Neil T. Anderson

Porn Again Christian by Mark Driscoll

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